Welcome to this week’s edition of “Wisdom from the Writer’s Journal.” This week, I have the pleasure of turning over the pad and pen to a wonderful blogger and writer Phoenix Grey.
Bio: “I have been writing seriously for the past three years, though I don’t have anything published beyond what’s on my blog. I write fantasy fiction, and sometimes science fiction. I love to share my stories, and I love to read anything I come across. Words are what I feel comfortable with, they take me to other worlds and inspire me every day.”
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Now on to her amazing offering of wisdom!
Compassion In Writing by Phoenix Grey
One thing I’ve learned about writing is that it requires commitment. Especially for big projects like novels. It takes time. It takes passion.
The best advice I’ve received is to write every day, but what when this isn’t possible? What when you’ve set yourself a daily, or even weekly, goal, and you don’t meet it?
This happened to me recently. I’ve just started a first draft and set myself a goal of 1000 words a day. I felt that was achievable for me. But then, only a week after I’d started, some unexpected events happened and the words didn’t get written.
At first, I got angry at myself and felt like I’d failed. You’re supposed to write through thick and thin, right? Come what may.
Sometimes, though, you need to have some compassion towards yourself. Writing isn’t meant to be a chore, it’s meant to be enjoyable. Yes, sometimes you have to sit down and make yourself start to write when you don’t want to, but I think we’re all capable of knowing when we’re procrastinating and when real life events have to take priority.
Sometimes you’re ill, or your child is, or your partner is. Sometimes a disaster happens in your home or your job. Those things often require all of your attention.
Or maybe you get depressed and you struggle to even breathe some days. Maybe you suffer from some other form of mental illness and some days are just too much to take.
That’s all okay. It’s okay to care about yourself, your family, your bill-paying job. It’s okay to put something ahead of your writing for a little while – even a long while if that’s what it takes.
Priorities are just that. Priorities. And sometimes your writing isn’t at the top of the list. Sometimes, everything you planned to do gets abandoned due to unforeseen circumstances. That’s okay. When things are back on track, reschedule.
Personally, this is something I’ve struggled with. Once I’ve planned to do something, especially if I’ve written it down, I feel the need to do it. But plans can, and sometimes have to be, remade.
That’s okay too. Life needs to be flexible, because when it’s not, it’s more stressful. So sit down and relax when you need to, take care of other things when you need to. Don’t hold yourself to a goal set on a day, or at a time, that was easier. Be as compassionate towards yourself as you would be to others.
Words I am trying to live by:
Treat others as you would wish to be treated, and treat yourself as you would treat others.
So, what do you think? Are you compassionate about your writing? Do you struggle to forgive yourself for missing a self-imposed goal or deadline? Let us know in the comments below.